Nationality Curses

Okay. I'm learning from your situation.


God just told me that some nationalities have manipulation at the core of their genes.

Example:

My mother's family were Irish, very melancholy and emotional. Her mother used manipulation all the time. Mother's sisters and their families were always in emotional turmoil. Somebody was always in need of money, etc. Sometimes my dad would help out but he finally saw the handwriting on the wall and stopped helping when he was asked to help over and over and over. One cousin shot his wife over being sexually manipulated over and over, and then having enough and he shot her. All the sisters had to supply the money for his trial, etc., which was huge because they hired the best attorney in the state of Texas. But that was a lesson for all of them, that their own well would run dry if they continued to do that. Some of Mother's relatives never seemed to grow up. They were always needy. Think about Ireland, always in war and turmoil for hundreds and hundreds of years, never a prosperous nation.

My dad's family were German. My grandfather came from a prosperous family, was rebellious to his banker dad and moved my grandmother and my dad and other seven kids from Iowa to Kansas, Ark. and then Ok. He never made a go of farming and they were always dirt poor. That's why my dad had to quit school in the 5th grade and go to work. All of the kids went to work. No one ever finished school. HOWEVER, all of them became successful at something, whether it was mechanics, business, factory workers, etc. Every one of them became self sufficient. My dad, with a 5th grade education, became successful even through he was a short little German guy with a huge nose. He started many businesses and made successes of all of them. He never borrowed money. He was a lender, lended money to people and made a great profit from that, also. All of my relatives in that family became prosperous, not hugely, but sufficiently in order to have a good life. ALL of their children have great jobs, very self sufficient even though not highly educated.

See the difference? Daddy's family had a more unstable background because of my grandfather's rebellion, but the German genes made them become self sufficient because of pride. They wouldn't take any money from anyone. They felt that they had to earn itl. That was the German self sufficiency.

Mother's family was always emotional, also emotionally manipulative, and they were always in need. That's the Irish genes.

I didn't know that about the Irish until we saw an Irish Celtic play and it was all clear to me about the emotionalism. They took pride in being interconnected and helping out one another, but they were co-dependent on one another, because they were ALWAYS having to supply someone's needs. No one rose above the poverty and constant need. All of that because of the Irish genes.

Some people do riise above them. Some don't.

So you gave me an opportunity to hear from God about the reason for my dad's family becoming stable financially and emotionally because my German grandmother made them be self sufficient.

Then there was my mom's family who were always emotionally immature and had to manipulate family members because they never became self sufficient. They didn't have to because somebody in the family was always supplying what they needed. That was because of the emotionalism in the Irish genes. They felt sorry for them constantly so they helped them out over and over again, further establishing the co-dependency. In other words, that old saying, "Give a guy a fish and you feed him for a meal. Teach him to fish and he'll eat for a lifetime," was never truth to them. Their thinking was, "Help a person out all the time and we will be a close family." There was never respect in that family because they were too co-dependent. There was emotional family love but no respect. There cannot be real love unless there's respect.

Boy, have I learned something today about my background and the difference between the co-dependent genes in the Irish and the independent genes in the Germans. .

Thank you, God, for the insight. Thank you, JulieAnn, for the need to hear from God about it.

Now I know why I had so much respect for my German Catholic grandmother and very little respect for my Irish Baptist grandmother. My Irish Baptist grandmother was always needy. My German Catholic one was never needy, just determined and self sufficient.